In a recent conversation, a gentleman said to me, “I know I am supposed to smile and say I am doing great, but my symptoms are giving me a hard time. I want to be honest when I answer the question how I am doing, and it does not look like I am doing great.” My response to him follows.
To begin, it would be useful for you to click here and read my post from last October entitled “Fighting Parkinson’s, and you are doing great!” Okay, now my explanation.
I viewed my recovery as a soul, mind, and body recovery. Healing my soul was the “learning to love myself” and “feeling joy from the inside” part of my recovery. It was opening up my heart and feeling gratitude for the gift of life, even life in a Parkinson’s body. Once I reached this place in my heart, my mind and my body were going to have to follow in the recovery.
I realized that since Parkinson’s was defined as a certain set of symptoms, then I was going to have some symptoms right up until my full recovery. So, I accepted this, and I surrendered needing to define the the symptoms as good or bad, better or worse…it really did not matter. I was doing the Parkinson’s Recipe for Recovery®, so I knew I was getting better every day even if my symptoms did not appear that way.
So, when somebody asked me how I was doing, when I smiled and said “I am doing great!” it was because in my heart I was, in fact, doing great. I knew I was on the right path. I knew that every day I was doing the right things for my recovery. I knew that every day I was opening my heart more to help my dopamine flow.
I did not define myself by my symptoms, and neither should you. You are so much more than your symptoms.
Click here to look at where I was in my recovery (physically and mentally) on May 10, 2010, eight months after I started doing the Recipe. As you can see, my symptoms were terrible, but I wrote: “Having a positive attitude is the key to everything. My mind and body have accepted the pain, so I am not consumed by it every waking moment.”
One month later, on June 12, 2010, I was fully recovered. Nobody reading that post (nor the guy who wrote) had any idea how close I was to my full recovery, and certainly, from the sound of how I was physically at the time, nobody would have expected me to be fully recovered one month from writing those words.
However, I was, and that was nearly four years ago.
Open your heart, to yourself and to others. Be the essence of who you are. Do not be your symptoms. Do not be your fears and worries and anxieties. Be you, the beautiful-heart, the one-of-a-kind-you, the essence of who you are. Then you will know that you are doing great, and when somebody asks you how you are doing, you can smile and answer straight from your heart, “I am doing great!” And, you will mean it.
You are worth it!!!
All my best,