I realized in my Parkinson’s recovery that I was very much out of balance, physically of course, but also mentally and spiritually. When things occurred in life that I did not like, my underlying emotion was anger with some emotional stress on the side. Ultimately, to get back into balance mentally and spiritually, I learned acceptance…acceptance of life!
I see it this way: Life is messy and things will not always turn out the way I thought I wanted them to turn out. “Okay!”
“Okay” is the word I used, and still use, to denote acceptance followed by dealing with the issue and working toward a solution. There is a certain emotional detachment that comes with “okay,” but that type of clear-headed emotional detachment is what you need to beat this disease. However, I have to admit that it was Sally who first used the “okay” strategy when we realized I had Parkinson’s.
When I first realized I had Parkinson’s and Sally and I discussed it and then cried together, she settled down and said, “Okay, we need to put a plan together and figure out what we are going to do about this.” Looking back, I know this was the most loving thing she could have done because I had to put my “poor me” away and start to work on a solution. As I went through my recovery, I learned that “okay” meant acceptance. Remember, please, that acceptance does not mean acquiescence.
For me, “okay” came to mean, “I accept the situation as it is, right here, right now. What is my solution? What am I going to do about it, right here, right now?”
I have tremors all the time…”okay.” Click here for a solution.
My legs hurt…”okay.” Click here for a solution.
My back hurts…”okay.” Click here for a solution.
I am constipated…”okay.” Click here for a solution.
I can’t get my utensil to my mouth…”okay.” Click here for a solution.
I am suffering from many symptoms and side effects…”okay.” Click here for many solutions.
Each “okay” meant this: “Okay, this is what is happening right here, right now, what am I going to do about it.” As you can see, this is quite different from, “My legs hurt, this means my Parkinson’s is worsening, soon I won’t be able to walk without a walker, soon after that I will be in a wheelchair.”
“Okay” is a call to action. It identifies an issue and works toward a solution. The other response is emotions. It is fear and worry and anger about the future. It causes paralysis of the spirit, which causes paralysis of the mind, which causes paralysis of the body. This is the one situation where your fear of the walker and wheelchair, and doing nothing about it, will provide you the paralysis you need to end up with the walker and wheelchair…you will get what you fear. Why not say, “okay,” and then do something to provide a solution to the problem.
What if you could say, “I have Parkinson’s and this is my Parkinson’s body…okay.” Accepting your Parkinson’s and your Parkinson’s body, with all of your newly discovered physical limitations and pains is part of the process of recovery. After Sally said let’s put a plan together, I read the book, What your doctor may NOT tell you about Parkinson’s Disease, by Dr. Jill Marjama-Lyons. It covered the medication and alternative approaches to dealing with the disease.
The thing is, I did not want to “deal” with the disease and I did not want to “maintain” the best possible life with the disease. Simply put, I did not want to have the disease at all, which is something I had been told, and all of you have been told, is impossible. However, recovering from Parkinson’s without medications was the only alternative for me. Faced with what I felt was the only alternative for me, I got on the path toward recovery and I never got off.
From what I had learned in Dr. Marjama-Lyons’ book, it seemed to me that Parkinson’s sufferers had been medicated for such a long time that experiencing the disease from a non-medicated body would be the way for me to best understand what was going on. I decided that if I experienced Parkinson’s as it was with no medications and no supplements and no pain killers, then I would understand Parkinson’s as it was…raw and unaltered…from inside a Parkinson’s body, and that would provide me the best opportunity to solve it and recover.
Back to “okay.” You need a lot of faith to take an “okay” attitude toward your Parkinson’s. It is the type of faith that says, “I know I will recover and I am getting on my path and I am not getting off until I recover.” And, as a person once explained to me, “After I finish doing the Recipe in the morning, everything else that goes on after that is my life, and I understand that for now, Parkinson’s is part of my life, but I also understand it is not my whole life and it will not always be a part of my life.” I smiled as this was exactly how I saw it.
So, you have Parkinson’s…”okay!” What are you going to do about it, right here, right now? Why not say, “okay,” get on your path to recovery with the Parkinson’s Recipe for Recovery®, and stay on your path to recovery until you reach your full recovery.
There is nothing wrong with you…you, your heart and soul, your essence…there is nothing wrong with you! You are so much more than your Parkinson’s symptoms! Do not live your Parkinson’s symptoms. Nothing good comes from that. Live your life. Do not just be alive, but actually live your life and find joy in your heart.
Find compassion and happiness and love and peace and contentment and gratitude in your heart. Find forgiveness in your heart…for others…and for yourself. You did not do anything wrong to get Parkinson’s, so forgive yourself! That’s right, open your heart and find the forgiveness you need to realize that Parkinson’s is providing you the opportunity to heal yourself — your soul and your mind and your body.
Take a look at the title of this website: “Fighting Parkinson’s Drug Free, Embracing the Disease from a New Perspective.” Embracing the Disease…accepting it is there…”okay,” pulling it in closely, examining it, facing it, not being afraid of it, letting go of your attachment to it, and fully recovering from it.
Seize the opportunity. Grab onto the Recipe and seize the opportunity to be your own recovery!
So, you have Parkinson’s…okay! What are you going to do about it, right here, right now?
Why not say, “okay,” get on your path to recovery with the Recipe, and stay on your path to recovery until you fully recover.
You are worth it!!!
All my best,