I realized in my Parkinson’s recovery that I was very much out of balance, physically of course, but also mentally and spiritually. When things occurred in life that I did not like, my underlying emotion was anger with some emotional stress on the side. Ultimately, to get back into balance mentally and spiritually, I learned acceptance…acceptance of life followed by solutions to Parkinson’s challenges!
I see it this way: Life is messy and things will not always turn out the way I thought I wanted them to turn out. “Okay!”
“Okay” is the word I used, and still use, to denote acceptance followed by dealing with the issue and working toward a solution. There is a certain emotional detachment that comes with “okay,” but that type of clear-headed emotional detachment is what you need to beat this disease. However, I have to admit that it was Sally who first used the “okay” strategy when we realized I had Parkinson’s.
When I first realized I had Parkinson’s and Sally and I discussed it and then cried together, she settled down and said, “Okay, we need to put a plan together and figure out what we are going to do about this.” Looking back, I know this was the most loving thing she could have done because I had to put my “poor me” away and start to work on a solution. As I went through my recovery, I learned that “okay” meant acceptance. Remember, please, that acceptance does not mean acquiescence.
For me, “okay” came to mean, “I accept the situation as it is, right here, right now. What is my solution? What am I going to do about it, right here, right now?”
I have tremors all the time…”okay.” Click here for a solution.
My legs hurt…”okay.” Click here for a solution.
My back hurts…”okay.” Click here for a solution.
I am constipated…”okay.” Click here for a solution.
I can’t get my utensil to my mouth…”okay.” Click here for a solution.
I am suffering from many symptoms and side effects…”okay.” Click here for many solutions.
Each “okay” meant this: “Okay, this is what is happening right here, right now, what am I going to do about it.” As you can see, this is quite different from, “My legs hurt, this means my Parkinson’s is worsening, soon I won’t be able to walk without a walker, soon after that I will be in a wheelchair.”
“Okay” is a call to action. It identifies an issue and works toward a solution. The other response is emotions. It is fear and worry and anger about the future. It causes paralysis of the spirit, which causes paralysis of the mind, which causes paralysis of the body. This is the one situation where your fear of the walker and wheelchair, and doing nothing about it, will provide you the paralysis you need to end up with the walker and wheelchair…you will get what you fear. Why not say, “okay,” and then do something to provide a solution to the problem.
What if you could say, “I have Parkinson’s and this is my Parkinson’s body…okay.” Accepting your Parkinson’s and your Parkinson’s body, with all of your newly discovered physical limitations and pains is part of the process of recovery. After Sally said let’s put a plan together, I read the book, What your doctor may NOT tell you about Parkinson’s Disease, by Dr. Jill Marjama-Lyons. It covered the medication and alternative approaches to dealing with the disease.
The thing is, I did not want to “deal” with the disease and I did not want to “maintain” the best possible life with the disease. Simply put, I did not want to have the disease at all, which is something I had been told, and all of you have been told, is impossible. However, recovering from Parkinson’s without medications was the only alternative for me. Faced with what I felt was the only alternative for me, I got on the path toward recovery and I never got off.
From what I had learned in Dr. Marjama-Lyons’ book, it seemed to me that Parkinson’s sufferers had been medicated for such a long time that experiencing the disease from a non-medicated body would be the way for me to best understand what was going on. I decided that if I experienced Parkinson’s as it was with no medications and no supplements and no pain killers, then I would understand Parkinson’s as it was…raw and unaltered…from inside a Parkinson’s body, and that would provide me the best opportunity to solve it and recover.
Back to “okay.” You need a lot of faith to take an “okay” attitude toward your Parkinson’s. It is the type of faith that says, “I know I will recover and I am getting on my path and I am not getting off until I recover.” And, as a person once explained to me, “After I finish doing the Recipe in the morning, everything else that goes on after that is my life, and I understand that for now, Parkinson’s is part of my life, but I also understand it is not my whole life and it will not always be a part of my life.” I smiled as this was exactly how I saw it.
So, you have Parkinson’s…”okay!” What are you going to do about it, right here, right now? Why not say, “okay,” get on your path to recovery with the Parkinson’s Recipe for Recovery®, and stay on your path to recovery until you reach your full recovery.
There is nothing wrong with you…you, your heart and soul, your essence…there is nothing wrong with you! You are so much more than your Parkinson’s symptoms! Do not live your Parkinson’s symptoms. Nothing good comes from that. Live your life. Do not just be alive, but actually live your life and find joy in your heart.
Find compassion and happiness and love and peace and contentment and gratitude in your heart. Find forgiveness in your heart…for others…and for yourself. You did not do anything wrong to get Parkinson’s, so forgive yourself! That’s right, open your heart and find the forgiveness you need to realize that Parkinson’s is providing you the opportunity to heal yourself — your soul and your mind and your body.
Take a look at the title of this website: “Fighting Parkinson’s Drug Free, Embracing the Disease from a New Perspective.” Embracing the Disease…accepting it is there…”okay,” pulling it in closely, examining it, facing it, not being afraid of it, letting go of your attachment to it, and fully recovering from it. “OKAY!!!”
Seize the opportunity. Grab onto the Recipe and seize the opportunity to be your own recovery!
So, you have Parkinson’s…okay! What are you going to do about it, right here, right now?
Why not say, “okay,” get on your path to recovery with the Recipe, and stay on your path to recovery until you fully recover.
You are worth it!!!
All my best,
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Great post my brother!
I learned that letting things go and not playing that negative record over and over is what made my dopamine flow. I’m grateful that I had faith in myself to simply just believe and accept. It wasn’t until I let go in faith that God caught me. Let us spread the word that this is curable and that what we need we already have. God bless you Howard and my fellow warriors.
Believing and accepting one day you will be cured?
Howard, I love saying “Okay.”
I have Okay written on post-it notes for a reminder. It really works. Now when I drop something I just say OKay, or for a joke I say that was a swift of gravity. I just used “Okay” this morning, had to attend a meeting I really didn’t want to go to, “Okay,” apparently I was suppose to attend the meeting or I would not be going. So I surrendered, accepted, and was grateful for the meeting, and my fear of the meeting greatly reduced. When entering the meeting someone ask me about my walk. I used “Okay” and my “who cares box.” Who cares what People think. It’s none of my business what they think. I’m going to enjoy my life while I recover.
Blessings to all and have a wonderful day
I am very proud of you! Your courageous walk is teaching me a lot. I am blessed that you are my hubby, my life partner!!
Awwwww Stacie, that is just gorgeous! xx
Amen, mighty warrior! Thanks for the encouragement. You are a great general leading an invisible army-your courage inspires all those around you! Fight on, Victory coming real SOON!
Dear Margit…..hope your life is a bit brighter today. It is ‘okay’ to share your feelings of frustration, sadness and loneliness as it is part of being human. Sometimes the happiest people are those who have had the hardest life. Times of hardship can make us find the meaning to our life so we strive harder to find the reason for our being. Mark Twain said ” The two most important days in our life are the day we were born and the day we find out why”. So today might be your awakening Margit. I take each day with the greatest respect and try not to waste time on thoughts that bring me down. I become aware of the company I keep and know when it is time to walk away. We need to live consciously not just exist . So I hope you take this day and make it worthwhile.
Love and blessings
Hi Margit, beautifully said by Veronica . She’s a wise warrior. 🙂 I’ve been thinking of you too all week. It’s funny but after me sending you all my be strong speel I had two really really tough days. I kept saying ” come on Margit, we can do this. So thinking of you made me dig deep! We’re doing great my friend. Love your posts Veronica!
Big love to you both! xx
Hi Howard, love this post. Okay okay okay! Hooray hooray hooray! 🙂
Debbie thinking of you, keep posting now! Don’t want you going into exile again! 🙂
Big love to all my warrior buddies old and new!
Like so many of the gems of wisdom Howard provides as tools for recovery, “okay” is a gift that keeps on giving.
Acceptance of what is true right this moment is a great lesson. rather than using energy on resisting, acceptance
Can be a springboard into positive action.
This is a valuable lesson for recovering from Parkinson’s and for life after recovery.
I am so grateful for this tool, which I continue to use every day.
Thanks, Howard, and everyone! This is exactly what I needed. Over the last few days, I have been thinking about James (70 AD) who talked about counting it all joy because when we get through the rough spots then we will be stronger.
Love and hugs to all.
Thanks for this wonderful reminder. Sometimes in difficult times
we forget how this simple word ‘ok’ can change our life to a positive
attitude🤗Thanks dear Howard.