Many people believe, as did I when I had Parkinson’s, that they have value or are special based upon achievement and performance. When the Parkinson’s reduces the ability to achieve and perform, many people lose confidence in themselves, and their self-worth plummets. What you need to know is that you are special simply because you exist!
In November of 2017, I wrote a book entitled, “Fighting Parkinson’s…and Winning.” To understand just how special you are simply because you exist, it would be helpful to re-read pages 98-113 in the book. If you have the Kindle version, it is near the end of Part Two in a section entitled, “I viewed the healing of my soul primarily as a 4-step process.” Then read the next section about gratitude to the end of Part Two, pages 113-121.
If you do not have the book, you can click here and purchase a paperback or download a Kindle ebook from Amazon.
To assist all of you, here is an excerpt from my book:
I understood in my heart and soul that I was uniquely me. It was not my accomplishments that made me special. It was not straight A’s that made me special. It was not hitting the home runs or scoring the most points or getting the lead in the play or the solo in band that made me special. It was not the great job that made me special, or the promotions or the raises, or the leadership positions I held that made me special. It was not the schools I attended or the degrees I obtained that made me special.
My thinking for almost all of my life had been that these were the things that made me special. However, that type of thinking was nothing more than the illusions I had created in my mind. I felt that I needed to be an over-achieving perfectionist in order to be special…in order to be accepted and liked and loved.
I had gotten the impression that acceptance, being liked, and being loved was based upon performance and achievement. This was because no matter how hard I tried and no matter what were my achievements, it never seemed to be good enough.
In my recovery, I understood that my achievements had been more than enough. However, I gleaned that the people from whom I was seeking approval, being liked, and being loved had been incapable of expressing these things to me as a result of their own life issues.
Ultimately, this brought me to a place of not approving of myself as well as not liking or loving myself. I felt that my best was not good enough. The people who had given me this impression had moved on in life. However, I was the one who had gotten stuck internalizing unhealthy feelings about myself.
Then, I broke free and became liberated. I understood that I was special simply because I existed.
Every one of you is special simply because you exist!
You are worth it!!!
All my best,
The sociopath’s ‘not enough’: I haven’t cheated enough people today.
The saint’s ‘not enough’: I haven’t helped enough people today.
Both are problematic.
We didn’t learn in live to be special, oh no there were a lots of things which we ought to do, because of what? The appreciations? This week I spoke to a friend and he said “you can only compare yourself with one person, …. with the person you see in the mirror”. I’m terrible in this, comparing with others, why do I do that? Why? …. you can fill in for yourself, for me it’s about no trust in who I am, jealousy, shortcomings. How to turn it off. Oh yes, you said it: I’m enough, that’s what you get from me, but also……the other is enough too. I have to digest this over and over again. Thx Howard
For me, the reason we are special, each one of us, is because our essence is a part of that vast, all-encompassing awareness or consciousness that existed before creation happened. For those of us who believe in a soul, then our essence is a soul, a part of God.
Yeah, Rita, that’s pretty much where this blog is going. Parkinson’s forces us to confront just how much buy in we have with the concept of a soul. Until we’re ready to hand over control to the soul, our sociopathic minds continue to walk all over us.
Thanks for your blog post. It drew my attention back to this most important part of the recipe.
Good thinkings… a very important view we sometimes forget… even dear Howard tells us steadily.. so we can still learn🤗Thanks Howard!!
Dear Howard, thank you for teaching us this important thing.
“I am special simply because I exist!
Love, Sharon in North Carolina