Fighting Parkinson’s and creating conflict. Yes, you read that correctly. It is time to create conflict and fight your mind! People with Parkinson’s tend to be the nicest people in the world…this often leads to being professional conflict avoiders. You fight for others, but you do not fight for yourself. I was this way, too. I had to change to have my full recovery.
As a result of you being a professional conflict avoider, your mind is betting everything that you will not have a conflict with it. So, it gives you more symptoms and then it tells you that you are getting worse. Everything that happens after that is an illusion of your mind.
You accept that if your mind shows you worse symptoms and gives you fear of the future of getting worse, that you are actually getting worse. It knows that you will not say, “No, you are wrong. I am getting better!!!” Why not? Because that would create conflict.
It is time for a big change. It is time to create conflict and fight your mind like your life depends on it. No exceptions allowed for your mind. You are doing the soul, mind, and body recovery program called the Parkinson’s Recipe for Recovery®. When you are doing the Recipe, you are getting better no matter what your symptoms are doing. You need to know this.
Since you are doing the Recipe and getting better, when anything is happening in your day where you are feeling better, moving better, feeling peaceful, etc., tell your mind, “This is a sign of me getting better.” Your mind will not be happy that you are acknowledging getting better and probably will show you an increased symptom.
When the increased symptom shows up and your mind says, “Look, you are getting worse” or whatever your mind does to frighten you about the future…FIGHT IT! CREATE CONFLICT WITH YOUR MIND!!! Feel it in your heart and soul that you are getting better. Tell your mind, “No, you are wrong. I am getting better!!!” You need to be relentless, and eventually, your mind will give in, and your heart and soul will prevail.
Please realize this, which is what I realized toward the end of my full recovery: Since my mind was almost always giving me worse symptoms, it was having to hear relentlessly that it was wrong and I was getting better. It causes you to tell your mind and yourself all day long that you are getting better. When your mind finally gives up, all that is left is this wonderful feeling in your heart and soul, “I am getting better!!!” And, you are. Feel it and know it!
Start creating conflict with your mind today! Start telling your mind, “No, you are wrong. I am getting better!!!”
You are worth it!!!
All my best,
Howard
Thank you Howard! How did you know I was a much loved doormat (-: No longer. Doormats everywhere, rise up and deal with the conflict. It’s good for your health!
With enormous thanks to you. Your book found me just in time.
Patricia (UK)
Howard, thank you! We can do this.
Sharon in North Carolina
Thank you, Howard. No negative thoughts. Just a positive attitude. We can do this.
Respected Howard sir,
I always wonder why our mind behaves like an enemy to us. You very truly said, we are conflict avoiders, so we tend to be submissive to our mind. But, you suggest to be in conflict with mind. That is a good idea. Thanks for the suggestion. Regards, Mona
“People with Parkinson’s tend to be the nicest people in the world…this often leads to being professional conflict avoiders”
Ah, so that explains why we so easily accept so many of our government’s whoppers. Most of us, being nice people, assume that our governments and the people that run them are on the up and up!
Well, the great journalist, I. F. Stone, had something to say about this, “All governments lie.”
This brings us to the logical extension of Stone’s great edict, “All minds lie.”
So there’s nothing to be embarrassed about when facing up to the fact that our minds are liars. It’s a very common problem. What we have today is the very uncommon opportunity to see this problem for what it is and DO something about it.
Thanks, Howard!
Blessings to all,
Chris
Thank you, Howard.
What you say is true…And is a wake-up call that I need to fight my mind more than ever!
I have a tendency to get worse when I proclaim I’m getting better…You’ve helped me realize it’s all about perseverance.
Howard, yes, the power of the mind is just overwhelming at times but we need to keep up the fight. Thank you for explaining it so well.
Thanks coach! Love the encouragement. When I tell people about my Parkinson’s, I tell them that I don’t medicate because I LIKE fighting back. And I do fight by doing the recipe everyday and refusing to fear the outcome. I get glimpses of recovery which help to carry me through the daily battles. But like you point out, I’m a nice guy who doesn’t really know how to fight. It takes courage to fight. And the enemy fights back. I’m learning. I am fighting. I must learn. I am fighting for my life. Fighting is winning. Knowing your opponent helps us to win more battles. Thank you for teaching us. I am winning. I can feel it. I am learning to love myself – enough to fight for myself and cure myself. Thank you for fighting for us and with us and for modeling how to win. It is very much appreciated!
Great post as ever, dear Howard! Yes, you are right, Werni is a very charming and nice person…. he avoided conflicts too! With your clear explanations how to handle it helps a lot! Thanks🙏
This week with the zoom with Howard I did finally understand “OKAY.”
It shut up the ego mind, so it has no power to bring you down.
It’s an immediate action (okay) over the reaction (ego mind).
Thx Howard
Thank you Howard. This was a great blog! I am on it! Karen from Wisconsin
We have to face conflict. Because the path we have chosen is in conflict with so much of the world around us. We are in conflict with:
1. Well-meaning friends and relatives. They want to be nice. So they ask questions like, “But you are going to a doctor too, right?” (Conflicts with well-meaning people who do not understand our path)
2. The “you can live a normal life” response. Me? I’ll take living a drug and symptom free life. (Conflicts with our goal or at least how that goal is stated.)
3. Delay the disease as a goal. (Versus symptom free as the goal)
4. The western medical establishment. (Differentiating symptom from cause. Electrical versus chemical)
Bring your strengths to your conflicts!
Roger
Stay strong!
Fabulous post Roger, Amen!
(although I fought the drug free way for four years but had to take them I got so bad) BUT I still have faith in the Recipe and my full recovery. 😊
Dear Howard,
Another great point. We have discussed this issue and wholeheartedly agree with you that we need to FIGHT IT and CREATE CONFLICT WITH YOUR MIND.
To do this I have put up a note “FIGHT BACK” in the room where I do my Recovery Exercises.
Have to stay strong and POSITIVE.
Revolutionary as always, Howard. My healing and love filled self is more powerful than the mind’s old fearful messages. I relish saying you are wrong to that voice!