Two posts ago, I wrote about opening your heart. In my last blog post, I wrote about the one-year anniversary of Elaine’s full recovery. These blog posts have sparked many inquiries into the issue of “loving yourself.” Today, I will address this further.
In my book Fighting Parkinson’s…and Winning, pages 98-113 encompass loving yourself in the part entitled, “I viewed the healing of my soul primarily as a 4-step process.” Here is an excerpt to assist you:
I understood in my heart and soul that I was uniquely me. It was not my accomplishments that made me special. It was not straight A’s that made me special. It was not hitting the home runs or scoring the most points or getting the lead in the play or the solo in band that made me special. It was not the great job that made me special, or the promotions or the raises, or the leadership positions I held that made me special. It was not the schools I attended or the degrees I obtained that made me special.
My thinking for almost all of my life had been that these were the things that made me special. However, that type of thinking was nothing more than the illusions I had created in my mind. I felt that I needed to be an over-achieving perfectionist in order to be special…in order to be accepted and liked and loved.
I had gotten the impression that acceptance, being liked, and being loved was based upon performance and achievement. This was because no matter how hard I tried and no matter what were my achievements, it never seemed to be good enough.
In my recovery, I understood that my achievements had been more than enough. However, I gleaned that the people from whom I was seeking approval, being liked, and being loved had been incapable of expressing these things to me as a result of their own life issues.
Ultimately, this brought me to a place of not approving of myself as well as not liking or loving myself. I felt that my best was not good enough. The people who had given me this impression had moved on in life. However, I was the one who had gotten stuck internalizing unhealthy feelings about myself.
Then, I broke free and became liberated. I understood that I was special simply because I existed.
Additionally, my biggest challenge toward the end of my recovery was the battle between my mind and my spirit self on the issue of self love and feeling like there must be something inherently wrong with me because of the way I was treated in my childhood and because I never felt that I was “perfect enough“ to be worthy and deserving of anything good.
With that in mind, here are links regarding there being nothing wrong with you:
As you know, the Parkinson’s Recipe for Recovery® is a soul, mind, and body recovery protocol. Loving yourself and fully accepting yourself for the beautiful soul that you are goes a long way to opening your heart to yourself with unconditional self love and self acceptance.
I know you can do it!
You are worth it!!!
All my best,