I have written a lot about faith and a lot about fear, and most people think that faith and fear are opposites. Actually, I feel that love and fear are opposites, and it is self-love that melts the blockages, defeats the fear, and opens your heart and soul to accept your full recovery.
Love.
Dr. Zhi Gang Sha (Western and Chinese Medicine doctor): “Love melts all blockages.”
Marie (Cured of Parkinson’s doing the Recipe): “’What? She sits around loving herself???? I’ll tell you, I do, every chance I get.’”
Pratima (Cured of Parkinson’s doing the Recipe): “I am worth it. I am going to WIN.”
Helen (Cured of Parkinson’s doing the Recipe): “I looked at myself in the mirror a few days ago, not at my skin or hair, but deep into my eyes. I found someone there I respect, admire for her courage, strength and love. I felt compassion for myself and all I have experienced in life. I saw a shy, hurt, self as well. I kept looking at her and gave her love. I now am feeling a relationship and soul love for myself. I am going to keep doing this mirror looking till I am healed. Falling in love with my depth, my individuality, my soul.”
Elaine (Cured of Parkinson’s doing the Recipe): “Probably the greatest gift you’ve given is in guiding and “giving permission” to LOVE MYSELF. And I do! It makes all the difference : – )”
And, last but not least, the Beatles. That’s right, the Beatles:
ALL YOU NEED IS LOVE
Love, love, love, love, love, love, love, love, love.
There’s nothing you can do that can’t be done.
Nothing you can sing that can’t be sung.
Nothing you can say, but you can learn
How to play the game
It’s easy.
Nothing you can make that can’t be made.
No one you can save that can’t be saved.
Nothing you can do, but you can learn
How to be you in time
It’s easy.
All you need is love, all you need is love,
All you need is love, love. Love is all you need.
Love, love, love, love, love, love, love, love, love.
All you need is love, all you need is love,
All you need is love, love. Love is all you need.
There’s nothing you can know that isn’t known.
Nothing you can see that isn’t shown.
There’s nowhere you can be that isn’t where
You’re meant to be
It’s easy.
All you need is love, all you need is love,
All you need is love, love. Love is all you need.
All you need is love. (All together now).
All you need is love. (Everybody).
All you need is love, love. Love is all you need.
Love is all you need.
Love is all you need
The Beatles and I are in full agreement! If you look at these words carefully you will see it:
Nothing you can do, but you can learn
How to be you in time
It’s easy.
All you need is love.
When I have written about being your authentic self, the first thing on the list of how to be your authentic self is, “Learning to love yourself.”
The Parkinson’s Recipe for Recovery® is a soul, mind and body recovery road map. As I have written in the past, “I did not like myself enough, certainly did not love myself, and absolutely felt it would be selfish to be trying to get better for me. I was so out of balance and I was flat out wrong about this point…I needed to love myself.” And you do, too!
Fear.
False Evidence Appearing Real. (Many sources are attributed to this acronym)
“Fear is not real. The only place that fear can exist is in our thoughts of the future. It is a product of our imagination, causing us to fear things that do not at present and may not ever exist. That is near insanity. Do not misunderstand me, danger is very real, but fear is a choice. We are all telling ourselves a story and that day mine changed.” Will Smith, After Earth movie.
Love defeats fear.
Love is who you are in this moment. Fear is a thought about a future event that in the present moment is make-believe, simply your imagination. Fear is not real.
Love provides safety and security in the present moment. Fear tries to fool you to not look at the present moment with love, safety, and security, but instead to be afraid of some imaginary future.
Love is real. Fear is unrealistic.
Conclusion: When you reach a point of self-love, that is, accepting yourself just as you are and feeling worthy, your self-love defeats your fear. And, since you are the one and only person who is with you all the time, you get to live your life fearlessly because your love of yourself defeats the fear every time.
Nothing you can do, but you can learn
How to be you in time
It’s easy.
All you need is love.
Love yourself, defeat the fear, have your recovery.
You are worth it!!!
All my best,
Howard
Lovely post, thank you Howard. The world would be a better place if we had more love and compassion for others. My 10 year daughter was acting up this morning and she could see I was disappointed in her actions and all it boiled down to was a confirmation for more love ❤️ Thinking of you all fighting for that win, love to everyone 😀😀
Today, as I was about to embark on a 17 mile bicycle trip down a mountain, I began to feel panic creep in. I have done this trip 4 times before but for some reason I found myself on the grip of fear. I settled myself by doing 20 reps of deep breathing and chanted all the way down the mountain, “No fear here”. It worked…the fear dissipated and I made it down the mountain safely. I love myself for having the courage to tackle my fears and not let it prevent me from enjoying a beautiful ride.
Here’s to tackling our fears!
Lynn
That’s a brilliant effort Lynn even without Parkinson’s, well done 👍
Amazing post Mr Howard. Hello my fellow warriors. Fear can destroy everything that you have built up. You have to live your life fearlessly in order to achieve your goals. Our goal and aim is to achieve full recovery with the recipe for recovery and not let fear scare you. I do feel the fear of the unknown, but I try to brush the fear away and put positivity in my thoughts and remind myself that I am worth it and with God’s blessings and support from you Mr Howard, family members, and reading fellow warriors comments on the blog keeps me going. I know I can do it ..So love yourself.🙏🏼
Note to self: Don’t leave it until you’re on your deathbed to realise that it’s that simple.
Thank you, Howard, for these incredibly beautiful words! –Julie R.
Fear is having much less influence on my life….Possibly in my entire life. :0)
I used to not allow the use of the P-word in our house or in my language because I didn’t want to embody the experience. Fear of the conventional view of “downward spiral of doom” was a threat. It has diminished considerably and now I am working at possibly the best job I have ever had (because of this transformational period of my life). I decided to get out of myself and the house. I now am a cycling instructor (I have loved cycling for a long time) among other tasks for a local bike shop. It is awesome!
I get paid to share a love of mine. Once I allowed myself to be seen and loved, people can see past the physical experience I am going through and be uplifted by my passion….and in return I am uplifted. It is a wondrously positive cycle(pun intended).
I am not out of the woods yet….but I can see the light…and it is getting stronger. Much much much gratitude to Howard for consistently shining his light for us to follow.
Much love my friends – from me to you – from me to me – from you to you.
W’Ren
Nanaimo BC
Good morning Howard and fellow warriors – just beautiful post, another one I am going to print out an use for my morning meditations! Another one of my favorite quotes I would like to add from 1 Corinthians 1:13 in the bible
“If I could speak all the languages of earth and of angels, but didn’t love others, I would only be a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal.”
So it is true All we do need is Love and focusing on that 24/7 in all our interactions with others and ourselves is what will get us straight to recoveryville, we are WORTH IT!
Have a beautiful week, love to all xoxox
Love, the ultimate lesson!
Self love, the penultimate lesson!!
… Because the greatest love of all
Is happening to me
I found the greatest love of all
Inside of me
The greatest love of all
Is easy to achieve
Learning to love yourself
It is the greatest love of all
A few months ago I was still thinking how can love save me from Parkinson’s? crazy!” My analytical mind shook its head. But I went for it. Tried to understand how this could work, how I can learn this. I realized that I don’t know love and certainly no self-love. This realization shook my self-image, my ego. I got involved with it at the age of 48 and went back to the elementary school of life. I now have my first dignified relationship in which I can learn something new every day. For this, the universe gave me exactly the right woman who got involved with me. When I was diagnosed, my ego told me “you will now be alone until the end of your life”. What was proved to me that my mind, my ego is lying! In the last few weeks I’ve finally felt what it’s like when my heart opens and I consciously perceive when it’s closed. I now meet fear with love and it goes away! Old patterns are changing. I now trust my feelings more than my mind. On the days when I accept myself with love, even with my downsides, then I feel very good – I forget the illness. then I catch myself thinking “oh I have Parkinson’s – thanks for my healing” Sending you lots of love
Hi Roland, that’s wonderful work you are doing with love. Thank you for sharing the journey!
Thank you Chris
Thanks Howard for the great write up on Love and fear.
Love overcomes all types of fears and it is an art itself to love yourself first. However, being loved by family and friends also helps in the recovery.
Love to all the warriors out there.
Hi Howard, I really love this post as I believe words are powerful, whether written, spoken or sung. It was my birthday Friday and the best part of my day was reading all my cards and the beautiful words they contained. Not forgetting a lovely e-card from my buddy from here Cynthia, who enriches my journey to recovery, with her friendship, and thoughtfulness. 😇
Roland delighted to read your post that at 48 you met your wonderful lady and found love. I was 58 this weekend, I still believe there is a beautiful man out there for me , that will, by God’s Grace, cross my path, when the time is right. In the meantime, it is important that I truly learn to love myself completely. I can’t share what I don’t have to give. 😊. “ be the love you seek” as someone wise once said. 🥰
Still getting mileage out of every day is a good day, despite a challenging week. My personal mantra for my birthday year ahead is the three “ F’s” that I will conquer “Freedom from fear” this year. ❤️
Big Love to you Howard and all my fellow warriors, old and new. Hope everyone is making progress in their own way.
Karen xx 💕