Fighting Parkinson’s, and recovery is not easy

If it was easy to recover from Parkinson’s, everybody would have their full recovery already. If it was easy to recover from Parkinson’s, it would not be considered an incurable disease. If it was easy to recover from Parkinson’s, you probably would see wonderful symptom changes shortly after starting the Recipe and be very happy to be mostly recovered from the disease in a short amount of time. However, recovery is not easy. Continue reading

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Fighting Parkinson’s, and your fear, your faith…your choice, part 2

Last week, I posted Fighting Parkinson’s, and your fear, your faith…your choice. I have gotten very good feedback. However, one question people keep posing is, “How am I supposed to keep my faith and not have fear when suddenly my symptoms appear worse.” Today, I will address that question. Continue reading

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Fighting Parkinson’s, and your fear, your faith…your choice

Fear is a choice. It leads to being afraid of the future, a future created in your mind by somebody else’s viewpoint of Parkinson’s. Faith is a choice. It leads to not being afraid of the future because it keeps you in your heart in the moment and you feel a happy ending coming one day. Given the choice of fear of the future or faith in my recovery, I chose faith, and I took action to be my own cure. What about you? Continue reading

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Fighting Parkinson’s, and acceptance and surrender in the moment

Parkinson’s is a symptom that life has gotten out of balance, physically, mentally, and spiritually. Many people are consumed with “why did I get this?” and “how bad will my future be?” When you are consumed with looking backwards with self-judgment and self-criticism, and you are consumed with looking forward in fear, you completely lose sight of the only thing that is real…this moment. Continue reading

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Fighting Parkinson’s, and the blog is seven years old

Seven years ago today, I began this blog. Much has happened over these last seven years, and I thought it would be helpful to go back to the beginning as a point of reference for today’s post. Here is my first post, March 25, 2010. Continue reading

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Fighting Parkinson’s, and your springtime renewal connection

As discussed in my most recent post, for those on the Northern Hemisphere, this has been a rough winter, and for those on the Southern Hemisphere, this has been a rough summer. Many have discussed with me not only the feeling of elevated symptoms this past winter and summer, but also, the lack of feeling connected to the Universe from a lack of being able to leave their homes. Today, I am throwing springtime renewal, autumn renewal, and getting connected all into one simple post. Continue reading

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Fighting Parkinson’s, and knowing that your best is good enough

The winter has been rough on everybody with Parkinson’s. Just as spring is getting closer, the northeastern United States was hit with another storm with over a foot of snow. I have heard from many people this winter that no matter how hard they have been playing the Positive Thinking Only game, the symptoms keep reminding them of physical limitations. This is why it is important to be reminded that your best is good enough.

You need to realize that we are impacted by weather. Parkinson’s sufferer’s in the Northern Hemisphere have been impacted in a harsh way during the winter months. The cold weather tightens rigidity and increases tremors. The body is using extra energy to stay warm. However, your Parkinson’s body was low on energy to begin with, so when the body is needing more energy to stay warm, you will suffer with increased symptoms.

Parkinson’s sufferer’s in the Southern Hemisphere have been impacted in a harsh way during the summer months. The record hot weather has caused dizziness and fatigue. The difficulty with staying hydrated has caused increases in tremors and slowness. The body is using extra energy to stay mobile. However, your Parkinson’s body was low on energy to begin with, so when the body is needing more energy to stay mobile, you will suffer with increased symptoms.

This does not equate to you getting worse with Parkinson’s. It equates to a shifting in energy for comfort and survival. In the Northern Hemisphere, the body needs a certain amount of warmth and it is prioritizing its energy. In the Southern Hemisphere, the body needs a certain amount of water to stay hydrated and use perspiration to regulate body temperature, and it is prioritizing its energy. That’s it!

So, as you have been struggling, it is important to know that your best is good enough. Not only do you need to know this, but you need to know that each day “your best” will be different than the day before. Don’t judge or criticize yourself…just do your best.

As a reminder, here is a recurring issue. People will tell me something like this: “I cannot do the Qigong exercises exactly like they are in the Recipe Manual or in the videos online, so I guess I will not be able to recover.” My response is simple: “When I had Parkinson’s, I could not do all of the Qigong exercises exactly like they are in the Recipe Manual or in the videos online, and I fully recovered. The only perfect Qigong is the one your body is allowing you to do when you are doing it. Your best is good enough.” Part of this recovery is learning that your best is good enough, and that you need to be kind to yourself on this issue.

When I had Parkinson’s, my balance was so poor that my center of balance was somewhere behind my heels. I hunched forward to not fall backwards. Mostly, I shuffled when I walked so I could keep my center of balance over my feet. In the second half of Medical Qigong for Liver, where you bend backwards, I could not even stand straight up, so I bent forwards and stood up as far as I could without losing my balance. It was my best, and it was good enough…I fully recovered.

When I had Parkinson’s, the near hand/far hand exercises became unbearably painful after a couple of weeks doing them as they appear in the Recipe Manual or how they are explained in the Recipe online. My fingers curled and my arms twisted, which brought me a large amount of pain. So, I sat in a chair, put my hands on my kidneys (lower back, either side of the spine), and I did the first one that way. I then took one hand out and put it on top of my head and did the second one that way. Why? Because it was the best I could do and my best was good enough…I fully recovered.

Ultimately, in being able to look at yourself and accept, yes, accept, that your best is good enough, you first have to learn to be kind to yourself. Over the last seven years, I have met with, spoken to, Skyped and FaceTimed with, and exchanged emails with, hundreds of people with Parkinson’s. You are some of the kindest and most giving people I have met…kind and giving to others…not yourselves.

You tend to put additional pressure on yourselves to be better at everything than anybody else. It is that drive for the unattainable perfection that helped you bring your Parkinson’s symptoms to the surface in the first place…you are doing your absolute best, but you still feel it is not good enough. On the other hand, you are accepting, and kind, and giving, and compassionate to those around you who are doing their best and not being perfect. Something in your mind says, “It is okay for them to be less than perfect because I am going to be perfect enough for all of us.”

As a result of the expectation that you have to be perfect, you never stop thinking and thinking and thinking and thinking and thinking…your Adrenaline-mode mind does not stop. Because, to be perfect, you realize at some level that there are multiple exceptions that go to every rule, and there are multiple corollaries that go to every theorem, and there are multiple options that go with every choice…and you have to run them all down and solve them all, and they keep branching out into more exceptions and more corollaries and more options, and you can see where this cycle goes…it is endless.

For those of you without Parkinson’s, this scenario may seem strange and stressful. For those of you with Parkinson’s, I know many of you are reading this and thinking, “So, what’s your point. This is how things work, no big deal.” Here is my point: Thinking this way is a BIG DEAL! It cuts across all three causes of what brings Parkinson’s to the surface as diagnosable symptoms.

It causes anger and frustration and resentment and stress and anxiety because you simply cannot solve every problem and every scenario. First, you get angry at the situation, and second, you get angry at yourselves for being less than perfect and not “having all the answers.” Click here for more on transforming anger.

The anger and frustration and resentment and stress and anxiety make it difficult to eat properly and you suffer from dietary disaster. Solving all these problems becomes more important than what or when or how you eat. Click here for more on healthy dietary choices.

You burn the candle at both ends and in the middle and your mind never stops thinking, which completely wears it down and upsets your bodies’ natural rhythms. Click here for more on acceptance to calm the mind.

So, how do you reverse this mess? Begin by being kind to yourself and fully accepting that your best is good enough.

How to begin the process of being kind to yourself:
1. Look in the mirror and say, “I am not perfect. My best is good enough.” For many of you, I know this will take some courage and resolve. The rest of us will patiently wait while you go take care of this. It is that important!
2. Go back to the mirror and say, “I do not have to be perfect. My best is good enough.”
3. I know, lots of time in the mirror — Go back to the mirror and say, “When I am doing my best, it IS good enough.” This one seems logical, but it is not. Many of you have told me, “I am doing my best, but I do not think it is good enough.”

Your best is your best; you cannot do any better than that. Be kind to yourself and accept that if you are doing your best, it is the best you can do, and it is good enough!

That is the formula to being kind to yourself. When somebody else falls short of an accomplishment, you offer them compassion and comfort, and you say, “That’s okay, you did your best, you have nothing to be ashamed of. It just wasn’t meant to happen.” Being kind to yourself means offering yourself the exact same compassion and comfort you offer others in the same circumstances.

These are critical lessons if you want to be successful with the Parkinson’s Recipe for Recovery® and with your recovery. Here is why:
The Recipe is a soul, mind, and body recovery. If you do the body part (Qigong) and at the end, you say to yourself, “I did not do that Qigong perfectly or even good enough, so I probably will not recover,” you have moved backwards. Whatever benefit you have gained for the body is great, but your mind is in negative (self-beating) mode, and your soul is losing faith in recovery.

Be kind to yourself and turn this around:
At the conclusion of doing the Qigong, say to yourself, “In this moment of doing Qigong, I did the best possible Qigong that my Parkinson’s body would allow and I did great in moving forward with my recovery!” That attitude propels your mind with positive thinking, and it propels your soul with continuing faith and hope in your recovery.

There is nothing wrong with being kind to yourself. In fact, being kind to yourself will liberate you as you move forward on your path toward recovery.

So, while you are continuing to be kind to others, keep the happiness and joy and compassion alive by being kind to yourself.

And do not be afraid of being vulnerable. As Socrates tells Dan in The Peaceful Warrior, “A warrior is not about perfection or victory or invulnerability. He’s about absolute vulnerability.” How about being a warrior in your fight against Parkinson’s by being vulnerable, admitting that you are not perfect, and that your best is good enough. You can do this!

You are worth it!!!

All my best,

Howard

 

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Fighting Parkinson’s, and your positive ripple effect

In my last few posts, I have have been recommending the positive thinking game because I know how instrumental positive thinking was in my recovery. And, positive thinking has been instrumental in my continuing to have a joyful life. Today, I want to explain the ripple effect of what you have been creating as you have been playing the Positive Thinking Only game. Continue reading

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Fighting Parkinson’s, and assistance to keep playing the game

Okay. You are playing the Positive Thinking Only game. Good for you. It can be difficult to keep an attitude of positive thinking, so today I will offer some additional assistance…gratitude. Gratitude practice keeps you in a positive thinking mindset. Here is a new look at gratitude. Continue reading

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Fighting Parkinson’s, and let’s keep playing this game

Last week, I posted, “Fighting Parkinson’s, and let’s play a game again.” If you have been playing the game, great. If you have been unable to maintain positive thinking, that is okay…just pick yourself back up and start your positive thinking today. Your first positive thought can be, “It is okay that I got consumed by negative thoughts, and today I am starting thinking positive thoughts again.” Continue reading

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